“I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.” ― Anthony Robbins

Positive Quote: “I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.” ― Anthony Robbins

 

This quote has me smiling. I look back for myself and agree that living through the past was frustrating at times and seemed larger than life as I was living it. Yet, today, I know it helped make me into who I am.

 

I am actually thinking more of my teenage 19 year old daughter. I wonder if the trials and tribulations of being independent and ‘adulting’ (as she calls it) will be something she looks back on and knows it helped form her as well. As a parent I can hope that I taught her enough to be able to solve many of the problems of life; from having maintenance issues in her first apartment to using a laundromat for her laundry to grocery shopping on a tight budget. Balancing life can be difficult and takes energy. I can’t always swoop in and make things better.

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day.

Priscilla

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Mistakes can be good

Positive Quote: “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.” ― George Bernard Shaw

 

This quote has me pondering the meaning of ‘nothing’. Is it the truest definition or something different?

 

When I read this quote I read it with the thought that ‘nothing’ is if I don’t push myself past my comfort zone, past what I know I am able to do, with what is routine.

 

There are many days, weeks, months where there is a routine. Yet, fitting in different things to stretch myself add so much value ad deepens my personal understanding.

 

For example:

Reading a book from a different genre or author

Visiting a historic site you are not familiar with

Attending an event a different culture or religion

Trying a new type of food

Watching an international film

 

There are so many different things that are small, yet can leave a lasting effect.

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day.

Priscilla

 

Do you Look instead of Seeing?

Positive Quote: “Looking but not seeing is the hearing but not understanding of the eye.” ― Mokokoma Mokhonoana

 

I like this quote. Do you know what it is like to look but not see? It happens to us all. Maybe we are driving home the same as we have done a thousand times before and we don’t notice the ‘fill in the blank’ at the side of the road. Maybe it is the item we ‘lost’ that we can’t seem to find. It could even be the fleeting emotions on someone’s face or in their tone of voice when we are speaking to them.

 

It begs the question, do we really see what is in front of us? Or are we so focused on our own agenda, our own goals and purposes that we fail to take into consideration things outside ourselves.

 

To me, this speaks to perception. I have lost count of the number of times I have heard, said, or read that perception is reality. It could be ours or someone else’s reality. Yet, reality nonetheless.

 

I know that there are many things I don’t ‘see’. I can work to open my eyes more, to be more conscious of my interactions, or lack thereof, and to seek feedback from others.

 

There are some techniques I try to use to help me widen my view.

  • Follow up with “what I hear you saying is ….”
  • Asking “tell me what you heard and what takeaways you have”
  • Sending concise meeting minutes and asking for corrections
  • Following up on emails, voice mails, etc…
  • Using the ‘right’ communication venue for the topic
  • After key meetings, asking someone I trust in attendance what their thoughts are on how it went
  • Asking if there are items that need to be discussed or covered that were not
  • Ask for input, again and again and again

 

Granted, not each one works in every situation. I have to know when and where it is appropriate. However, I know I have to keep my eyes open so I can see instead of just look.

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day.

Priscilla

“To learn which questions are unanswerable, and not to answer them: this skill is most needful in times of stress and darkness.” ― Ursula K. Le Guin

Positive Quote: “To learn which questions are unanswerable, and not to answer them: this skill is most needful in times of stress and darkness.” ― Ursula K. Le Guin

 

This quote spoke to me today. There is a lot of things in life that are not easily answerable. The key factor for me is to determine if I really need to locate the answer. If learning the answer doesn’t help me get either where I need to go or lead to a key factor of my life, then do I really need to pursue it. More than likely I don’t.

 

I see this quote along the same lines of knowing when to speak out, when to comment on topics. Is what I am about to say going to add value to the topic? Less can be more.

 

Learning when to question, when to answer, when to chime in….those are skills that have to be learned, nurtured, and developed.

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day!

Priscilla

 

“Happiness is not the absence of problems; it’s the ability to deal with them.” ― Steve Maraboli

Positive Quote: “Happiness is not the absence of problems; it’s the ability to deal with them.” ― Steve Maraboli

 

Happiness, I believe this comes from within, along with contentment and acceptance. The whole, this glass is half full concept.

 

Life happens and it is in how we react and move forward that helps determine our happiness. I do know that all of the experiences of life do not lead to happiness. Bad things happen. Life happens. I agree with the concept of this quote in that it is in our ability to deal with life and its ups and downs that can lead to a happier life.

 

Happiness is subjective to each person. Do I have things in life I wish were different, yes. Yet through it all, I believe I am happy.

 

Sometimes, for me, I need to step away and look at each aspect of a problem to help me in dealing with them.

 

 

I know that there are more issues on the horizon, yet how I deal with them makes the difference in my level of optimism.

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day.

Priscilla

 

“You often meet your fate on the road you take to avoid it.” ― Goldie Hawn

Positive Quote: “You often meet your fate on the road you take to avoid it.” ― Goldie Hawn

 

Fate, pre-destiny, some people believe in these things and some people don’t, while others are on the fence.

 

As for me, I believe that people have a fate, we are meant for something. However, I also believe in freedom of choice and that we are not forced to accept or embrace our fate.

 

Have you ever had a choice in life where you chose one path and then a little bit down the road the almost identical choice of the one you did not choose is offered again in some variation? I have, on multiple occasions. For those times, I stop and ask myself if fate is trying to intervene. While I may not always choose that path, I am aware that it may pop up again. The times I do choose it, I am in awe on how it may ‘fit’ where I see myself growing or going in life.

 

Avoidance is along the same vein as acceptance. It is accepting that you are avoiding.

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day.

 

Priscilla

 

Why I don’t want a perfect ending

Positive Quote: “I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.” ― Gilda Radner

 

Life is a cycle.

 

Earlier in my life, the before adulthood part, I did not have control, life happened to me versus me happening to life. I can’t erase those life experiences, yet I found a way to not only accept them but to choose to be a better person for them. Those experiences won’t go away, as they shaped me to be who I am today, yet they don’t have the power to control me.

 

As a younger adult, I tried to control everything. I had a planner, I wanted things to happen on a timeline. I wanted checklists. I wanted structure that I could control. I had schedules for just about everything. Yet, I wasn’t truly happy or content.

 

Then, as I aged and learned to accept myself for who I am and embrace the me that is me… I learned that life is what we make it to be. Some choices would take me down one path, others would take me down another, and then there are roads I don’t even know I could go on. I have learned to be okay with this and look forward to what life has in store without the need to control it all; as if it was even possible.

 

Don’t get me wrong, I still have that part of me that likes organization… the spice rack, dvds, leadership books are all alphabetized. I color code my personal filing system. Yet, I do have a junk/catch all drawer. I make messes and they can grow before I get to them to clean them up.

 

Yet through it all, I believe I have embraced this quote’s concept. I am making my own poems, my own story, and I know that life tomorrow may not look like life today. So those things that I choose to fill them with that is what is most important. Family, friends, things I am passionate about, they all add up to life.

 

I don’t know what will happen next. I can only control my reactions to things, my desire to learn new things, and how I interact with others, and a few other things. I can choose to take the moment and making the best of it.

 

Ambiguity is to me like living in a world of gray. It can be complex, simple, and what we make of it. I like to think I bring my own personal color to the table.

 

There are times where the ambiguity can lead to stress or anxiety and I have to step back and tell myself to embrace the unknown and be me, giving 100%.

 

In those times, I can do one of two things that help me. Each person is different and this may not work for everyone. One thing I do is close my eyes, stop what I am doing, take a deep breath and visualize in my head that I am twirling in circles and screaming as loud as I can. After about 10 seconds I can open my eyes and I am smiling and feel better. Another thing I do is stop what I am doing, stand up, bring my hands into my chest, close my eyes, inhale deeply, and with my exhale I fling my arms out and say whoosh. This helps me physically and mentally. Whatever I was focused on I am mentally telling myself to let it go. Sometimes, I need 2-3 whooshes to fully let go and move on.

 

As you can tell I embrace and love this quote.

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day.

Priscilla