Happy Halloween – quotes by Mark Twain and Sir Arthur Conan Doyle Sr.

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 “Everyone is a moon and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody.” – Mark Twain

 

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“Where there is no imagination there is no horror.” – Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, Sr.

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In honor of Halloween I decided to forgo traditional quotes and go more for quotes that can relate to Halloween. I could not decide between the two which I liked better.

 

Mark Twain’s quote on everyone having a dark side that they don’t show to anyone resonates with me. There are times when I view my past childhood as a dark side. As a child I could not control the environment of abuse I lived in. I rebelled like crazy, running away, getting caught up with the wrong crowds, and other not so healthy stuff. By the time I was a freshman in high school, I decided that only I could impact my world and I became more assertive of demanding something better for myself. For the longest time, my past was like the dark side of the moon; I did not share it with anyone and avoided all kinds of questions people would ask about my upbringing. I became a master at changing the subject and diverting attention away from myself. This made it difficult for me to make close friends as a part of me was hidden and locked away. Thankfully, I have gotten better at opening up, I started small and am now at a point where my past is a part of who I am, it helped mold me into the me I am today. I have come to accept this over the years and be open to sharing my story with others. Now don’t get me wrong, I still have moments where something will trigger a bad memory and I may withdraw to recoup myself. As the years pass, these get to be fewer and fewer. Yet, for me, it is good for me to remember my past as it helps shape my present and my future.

 

Moving on to Sir Arthur’s quote on where there is no imagination there is no horror. I see this as more of a balance. With imagination can come the great, happy, wonderful things and on the flip side, there can be the ugly, twisted, and horrific. I am a visual person by nature. I like to see things to conceptualize and brainstorm. I use a pad of paper and dry erase board like crazy. It helps me get things in more perspective. Yet, sometimes, I may have some freaky stuff come out of my head. For example, one day my husband and I were talking about something on TV and the music came on where you know something bad is going to happen next (predictable)… well he guessed something like kidnapping while my mind went down the path of assault or murder. I guess I took it up a notch in severity. Maybe that is why my husband and I keep each other in balance. We can throw all possible outcomes out there, settle on one in the middle somewhere and move on. I have found it helps me look towards the positive in things; just knowing the best that could happen and the worst that can happen help me lean towards the best and be optimistic.

 

As for Halloween; it is my second favorite holiday after Christmas. We decorated inside and outside the house. We even had a Halloween party last weekend that was a blast. We live in a town that has an annual Halloween parade (floats and all) and in our neighborhood we get around 200 kids trick-or-treating. Seeing all the costumes, weirdness, and enjoying the decorations is a very pleasant way to spend an evening.

 

I hope everyone has a terrific Thursday.

Priscilla

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“Wise sayings often fall on barren ground, but a kind word is never thrown away.” – Arthur Helps

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Positive Quote: “Wise sayings often fall on barren ground, but a kind word is never thrown away.” – Arthur Helps

 

Kindness is something that people remember, no matter how many years may pass.

 

I can look back at the past 30 odd years of my life and vividly remember the strong acts of kindness given to me by others.

 

I can remember when I had my first child and had only been home for a couple of days and my manager and my manager’s manager dropped by to surprise me and visit with me and the baby. Or one of several times I had a flat tire or other car trouble and someone stopped by to help get the car going again. Or when my dog got loose and people stopped to help catch him. Or even when my teenager, without prompting, tells me she loves me and gives me a huge hug. Or when my husband is his normal self…. He treats me very special. There are so many things that can be remembered.

 

I hope that the things I say and that any actions I take or things that I do are reflected in kindness.

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a terrific Wednesday.

Priscilla

“How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in your life you will have been all of these.” — George Washington Carver

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Positive Quote: “How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in your life you will have been all of these.” — George Washington Carver

 

When I was much younger, I was neither compassionate nor sympathetic. In fact, in quite a few cases I probably was as far opposite as you could get. At the time I would say I was a realist or that people had to earn my respect or even that people had to take care of themselves. In short, I was extremely jaded.

 

I had lived a very difficult life growing up and did not have many (if any) positive role models in my early life. I can remember times in my life as a child where I did not know where my next meal or roof over my head would come from. I ran away from home more times that I can count. I was a pretty screwed up child and could not come to terms with the cycle of abuse that was going on with my life. I felt abandoned by so many in authority, because it was the word of a child versus that of an adult and some wounds you could not see.

 

Thankfully, I started seeing the world as being more than myself. It did not happen overnight and I continue to be a work in progress. It happened little by little. Regretfully, it wasn’t until my mid 20’s that I started to see that others had issues, suffering, pain, and hardships. Thankfully, by that time I had escaped my past and cut the cord to the point where I have not seen my mother since I was 14. It is a choice, and over the years I ask myself if it is the right one. For me, it is.

 

For the longest time I thought that work and a career was the main driving force in life. I threw myself into work and it did not let me down. I learned and went up and down the career ladder, sometimes even sideways. Yet, I did not feel complete, something was missing. I was not contributing to the betterment of the world. Cheesy, I know. Yet, it gnawed at me.

 

I have to come to find an inner peace as I help others. The help can come in various ways. We (my family) donate to a handful of different charities, we donate items we no longer need or want to others, we have volunteered at different organizations, and I am on a United Way allocation panel. Do I think I am doing enough? No….. however, I know I am making a difference.

 

Hence, I strive to be tolerant and compassionate of others. If given the choice, I would rather help someone than stand by and see them suffer or hurt. I have also learned, you can only help those who are willing to accept it and want to help themselves.

 

Whew… who knew that this particular quote would reach into my soul? I have stopped and re-read what I have written, I have contemplated deleting it all and picking a different quote. Yet, I know deep down that being vulnerable helps me grow and what can be more vulnerable than this? So here goes….. I am posting away.

 

Have a great Tuesday y’all.

Priscilla

“You can’t shake hands with a clenched fist.” —Gandhi

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Positive Quote: “You can’t shake hands with a clenched fist.” —Gandhi
 

 

Visualizing two people meeting and trying to shake hands with clenched fists would be comical. However, don’t we do this quite often? Don’t we, at times, meet someone with a closed mind? Granted, it is easier to see the clenched fist than it is to see the closed mind. Yet, both make the introductions/meeting get off on the wrong foot.. err hand.

 

I have found that taking a breath, or closing my eyes for a second, or even just picturing something pleasant helps me clear my mind and not carry over negative thoughts into an introduction or meeting. It is not easy and I do tend to remind myself from time to time.

 

What does this quote bring to your mind?

 

Have a marvelous Monday.

Priscilla

“Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.” — Og Mandino

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Positive Quote: “Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.” — Og Mandino

 

One of the main reasons I like this quote is that it helps reinforce for me that my interactions with people is just a small part of their overall day. I don’t know what else they are working on, what else is going on in their life, or what struggles they may be facing. However, I do know that I would prefer to treat people kindly.

 

Yet, kindness at times can be seen by others in different ways.  There are times as a leader where we have to deliver a tough message or hold people accountable. To some, the message may be harsh or difficult to hear. Yet, I believe that it is in the delivery; to deliver the message with kindness, yet consistency.

 

This brings to my memory a time many years ago when I had a leader who reported to me and he wasn’t quite where I needed him to be at his level. He would turn in reports with data errors that should have been caught. He turned in deliverables late or had to be constantly reminded. Yet, I knew he had the potential. He had a great rapport with people and his team was motivated and had a bond with him. Rather than delivering the message pointing out all the issues at the start, I took a different approach. I sat him down, in a meeting room, and I asked him if he wanted to be a team leader. I asked him if that was what he really wanted to be doing. This one question opened the door for us to talk openly about what I was seeing and we came up with an approach for him to refocus on certain aspects of his job.  Several years down the road, I was in a different role, we had the chance to catch up and he told me that conversation had been a turning point for him. I shudder to think what the end outcome would have been if I had not tried to deliver the message with kindness.

 

What do you think of when you read this quote?

 

Have a fabulous Friday.

Priscilla

“Our business in life is not to get ahead of others, but to get ahead of ourselves – to break our own records, to outstrip our yesterday by our today.” – Stewart B. Johnson

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Positive Quote: “Our business in life is not to get ahead of others, but to get ahead of ourselves – to break our own records, to outstrip our yesterday by our today.” – Stewart B. Johnson

 

I like this quote as it helps to remind me that there is always room for self improvement. As I get older, I am starting to focus more on the value I get by helping others; how that in turn, helps me grow more.

 

Weird, isn’t it?

 

Over the past few years I feel like I am ‘getting it’. I feel like I am continuing to grow. The hard part is that I can see how much more I need to focus on and where there are areas in my life that I want to be better.

 

My thoughts are going around in my head and it is pretty hard to get them on (virtual) paper.

 

The good news is; I know that tomorrow and the next day and the next… without end…. I am confident that I will continue to grow and work to be a better me.

 

What goes through your mind when you read the above quote?

 

Have a great Thursday.

Priscilla

“Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.” – Dale Carnegie

Positive Quote: “Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.” – Dale Carnegie

 

I believe that success cannot be felt or achieved if you have not experienced discouragement or failure.

 

I can equate discouragement to flour and failure to sugar. Together they are key ingredients in baking a cake. Where the end result (the cake) is the success. Cheesy, I know, however it helps me remember that discouragement and failure happen. It is what you do with them that can either lead you to success or nor.

 

What do you think of when you read this quote?

 

Have a stupendous Wednesday.

Priscilla