Kindess in constructive feedback, quote by Lillian Gish

Positive Quote: “I like people to come back and tell me what I did wrong. That’s the kindest thing you can do.” – Lillian Gish


Have you ever had a conversation with someone and you wanted to give them feedback that you knew they would not see coming or even know it was an issue? It can be awkward and it is difficult to have without defensiveness, especially if this is the first time the person has ever heard of something.


This quote reminds me that not telling someone is so much worse and is unkind. It is kinder to give a person a chance to address concerns than to not tell them and they continue to make the same mistakes.


I relate kindness to empathy. I think it is because I have to be conscious of it within myself. I am an INTJ in Myers Briggs speak.


I found this great snippet that describes INTJ’s – “INTJs are strong individualists who seek new angles or novel ways of looking at things. They enjoy coming to new understandings. They tend to be insightful and mentally quick; however, this mental quickness may not always be outwardly apparent to others since they keep a great deal to themselves. They are very determined people who trust their vision of the possibilities, regardless of what others think. They may even be considered the most independent of all of the sixteen personality types. INTJs are at their best in quietly and firmly developing their ideas, theories, and principles.” – Sandra Krebs Hirsch


It is part of the role of the leader to coach and mentor others, with kindness.


What do you think of this quote?


Have a tremendous Thursday.



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