Positive Quote: “The art of conversation lies in listening.” – Malcolm Forbes
It is not always easy to listen. Some people are thinking about what they are going to say next in the conversation versus hearing what the other person is saying. Others may even miss the topic totally and be sidelined on something else rather than listening. I think listening is a skill and it has to be learned. Once learned, it has to be relearned and focused on to ensure consistency. I remind myself from time to time to step back, listen, and even at times to ask the person talking if they want me to listen or to give my opinion.
I think I am learning this more and more as my teenage daughter grows older. As a younger child I would listen to her talk about her day and offer my thoughts, guidance, and try to help. As a teenager, my opinion is not worth a whole lot more often than not. My daughter will talk about her friends and who said what and who is dating who and how could so and so do that and my role in all this is to listen. I can ask clarifying questions, like, “Have I met so and so” or “What so and so the one who you told me about the other day” and so on. Yet, not giving my opinion…unless it is a topic my daughter knows I feel strongly about. However, there are those rare times, maybe once a week or so where my daughter will start her sentence with “real talk Mom” and that is how I know that she wants my opinions, help, and guidance.
I can’t say that I am perfect. Yet, I can say that I know that listening is important not just at work but in life in general.
What do you think of this quote?
Have a terrific Thursday.