“Happiness is not the absence of problems; it’s the ability to deal with them.” ― Steve Maraboli

Positive Quote: “Happiness is not the absence of problems; it’s the ability to deal with them.” ― Steve Maraboli

 

Happiness, I believe this comes from within, along with contentment and acceptance. The whole, this glass is half full concept.

 

Life happens and it is in how we react and move forward that helps determine our happiness. I do know that all of the experiences of life do not lead to happiness. Bad things happen. Life happens. I agree with the concept of this quote in that it is in our ability to deal with life and its ups and downs that can lead to a happier life.

 

Happiness is subjective to each person. Do I have things in life I wish were different, yes. Yet through it all, I believe I am happy.

 

Sometimes, for me, I need to step away and look at each aspect of a problem to help me in dealing with them.

 

 

I know that there are more issues on the horizon, yet how I deal with them makes the difference in my level of optimism.

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day.

Priscilla

 

“You often meet your fate on the road you take to avoid it.” ― Goldie Hawn

Positive Quote: “You often meet your fate on the road you take to avoid it.” ― Goldie Hawn

 

Fate, pre-destiny, some people believe in these things and some people don’t, while others are on the fence.

 

As for me, I believe that people have a fate, we are meant for something. However, I also believe in freedom of choice and that we are not forced to accept or embrace our fate.

 

Have you ever had a choice in life where you chose one path and then a little bit down the road the almost identical choice of the one you did not choose is offered again in some variation? I have, on multiple occasions. For those times, I stop and ask myself if fate is trying to intervene. While I may not always choose that path, I am aware that it may pop up again. The times I do choose it, I am in awe on how it may ‘fit’ where I see myself growing or going in life.

 

Avoidance is along the same vein as acceptance. It is accepting that you are avoiding.

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day.

 

Priscilla

 

Why I don’t want a perfect ending

Positive Quote: “I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.” ― Gilda Radner

 

Life is a cycle.

 

Earlier in my life, the before adulthood part, I did not have control, life happened to me versus me happening to life. I can’t erase those life experiences, yet I found a way to not only accept them but to choose to be a better person for them. Those experiences won’t go away, as they shaped me to be who I am today, yet they don’t have the power to control me.

 

As a younger adult, I tried to control everything. I had a planner, I wanted things to happen on a timeline. I wanted checklists. I wanted structure that I could control. I had schedules for just about everything. Yet, I wasn’t truly happy or content.

 

Then, as I aged and learned to accept myself for who I am and embrace the me that is me… I learned that life is what we make it to be. Some choices would take me down one path, others would take me down another, and then there are roads I don’t even know I could go on. I have learned to be okay with this and look forward to what life has in store without the need to control it all; as if it was even possible.

 

Don’t get me wrong, I still have that part of me that likes organization… the spice rack, dvds, leadership books are all alphabetized. I color code my personal filing system. Yet, I do have a junk/catch all drawer. I make messes and they can grow before I get to them to clean them up.

 

Yet through it all, I believe I have embraced this quote’s concept. I am making my own poems, my own story, and I know that life tomorrow may not look like life today. So those things that I choose to fill them with that is what is most important. Family, friends, things I am passionate about, they all add up to life.

 

I don’t know what will happen next. I can only control my reactions to things, my desire to learn new things, and how I interact with others, and a few other things. I can choose to take the moment and making the best of it.

 

Ambiguity is to me like living in a world of gray. It can be complex, simple, and what we make of it. I like to think I bring my own personal color to the table.

 

There are times where the ambiguity can lead to stress or anxiety and I have to step back and tell myself to embrace the unknown and be me, giving 100%.

 

In those times, I can do one of two things that help me. Each person is different and this may not work for everyone. One thing I do is close my eyes, stop what I am doing, take a deep breath and visualize in my head that I am twirling in circles and screaming as loud as I can. After about 10 seconds I can open my eyes and I am smiling and feel better. Another thing I do is stop what I am doing, stand up, bring my hands into my chest, close my eyes, inhale deeply, and with my exhale I fling my arms out and say whoosh. This helps me physically and mentally. Whatever I was focused on I am mentally telling myself to let it go. Sometimes, I need 2-3 whooshes to fully let go and move on.

 

As you can tell I embrace and love this quote.

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day.

Priscilla

“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Positive Quote: “You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

 

Eleanor Roosevelt is one of my favorite First Ladies. Her life was not picture perfect and she, in my opinion, met life head on. One of the many reasons I love this quote is that it reminds me to be me, to be the me I want to be and act as if no one is watching.

 

While, in general, you want people to think well of you, to me what matters most is that I think well of me and my actions or inactions.

 

  • What do I do when I am alone or when I am faced with something that triggers either emotions or anxiety?
  • What do I do in the unknown, the grayness of life?

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day,

Priscilla

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.” – Helen Keller

Positive Quote: “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement.” – Helen Keller

 

Most people would say they are optimists or realists, not many people say they are pessimists. This quote has me wondering if optimism and faith go hand in hand. To me, faith does not have a religious connotation. To me faith is about believing in something, having trust, and having confidence.

 

Having faith in oneself and in ones abilities, I believe, can lead to achievement. However, it takes more than faith alone, it takes hard work, dedication, and a good support system.

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day,

Priscilla

 

Do you throw stones at barking dogs?

Positive Quote: “You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” – Winston Churchill

 

This quote brought a smile to my face. Can you imagine, walking through life and throwing stones at barking dogs? I cannot. I choose not to.

 

You may wonder what a barking dog can represent…I believe it can represent the following:

 

  • A deadline you are not able to meet that is looming
  • A project or task you are procrastinating on starting/doing
  • A co-worker who disagrees with you
  • A pile of work or items that doesn’t seem to go away
  • Speedbumps and roadblocks on things you are working on
  • Difficult conversations that need to occur
  • Negativity
  • Self-doubt

 

The list can go on and on.

 

You may ask, ‘What do you do with a barking dog?’ – Depending on the situation there are many methods than can be leveraged. You can:

 

  • Block up a project or task into bite size chunks with measurable milestones
  • Prioritize what you are working on
  • Work on the ‘big rock’ items when your brain is at its peak and freshest
  • Look to determine the root cause of why disagreements occur. If this is not acceptable ask yourself if a disagreement is hindering you or something you can agree to disagree and move forward from there
  • Look to risk mitigation, if there are bumps and blocks along the way find alternate avenues
  • Collaborate with others
  • Map out difficult conversations and focus on preparation
  • Take time to reflect and address internal conflicts and doubts

 

This list can also grow to address specific concerns

 

Most importantly, you need to know where you are going in order to take the path to get there. If you don’t know where you are going, how will you know if you are on the right path?

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day!

Priscilla

“You can never leave footprints that last if you are always walking on tiptoe.” – Leymah Gbowee

Positive Quote: “You can never leave footprints that last if you are always walking on tiptoe.” – Leymah Gbowee

 

I am a visual person, I like color, and I like images. This quote has me visualizing what it would look like. A footprint makes an indent, it leaves a mark, depending on both what you have stepped in (what you carry with you) and what you step into (your interactions). There is a time to tiptoe, yet as a leader we must walk fully on both feet.

 

When I think of a leader leaving a footprint versus being on tiptoe it brings to thought many varying images.

 

To be on tiptoe:

  • Perhaps you are letting someone take point and lead with you taking a back seat (this is a good thing for growth of others, yet can be not so good in certain situations)
  • Perhaps you avoid confrontation
  • Perhaps you don’t want to be the first one to weigh in on an idea or topic
  • Perhaps you come across someone taking ownership of something and don’t want to inadvertently halt their progress

 

As you can see there are good times and not so good times to tiptoe.

 

As for footprints, the ones I would want to leave are ones that are positive versus those where people say ‘I don’t want to be like that’.

 

It makes me wonder, what footprint am I leaving?

 

What do you think of this quote?

 

Have a great day!

Priscilla