Positive Quote: “I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.” ― Gilda Radner
Life is a cycle.
Earlier in my life, the before adulthood part, I did not have control, life happened to me versus me happening to life. I can’t erase those life experiences, yet I found a way to not only accept them but to choose to be a better person for them. Those experiences won’t go away, as they shaped me to be who I am today, yet they don’t have the power to control me.
As a younger adult, I tried to control everything. I had a planner, I wanted things to happen on a timeline. I wanted checklists. I wanted structure that I could control. I had schedules for just about everything. Yet, I wasn’t truly happy or content.
Then, as I aged and learned to accept myself for who I am and embrace the me that is me… I learned that life is what we make it to be. Some choices would take me down one path, others would take me down another, and then there are roads I don’t even know I could go on. I have learned to be okay with this and look forward to what life has in store without the need to control it all; as if it was even possible.
Don’t get me wrong, I still have that part of me that likes organization… the spice rack, dvds, leadership books are all alphabetized. I color code my personal filing system. Yet, I do have a junk/catch all drawer. I make messes and they can grow before I get to them to clean them up.
Yet through it all, I believe I have embraced this quote’s concept. I am making my own poems, my own story, and I know that life tomorrow may not look like life today. So those things that I choose to fill them with that is what is most important. Family, friends, things I am passionate about, they all add up to life.
I don’t know what will happen next. I can only control my reactions to things, my desire to learn new things, and how I interact with others, and a few other things. I can choose to take the moment and making the best of it.
Ambiguity is to me like living in a world of gray. It can be complex, simple, and what we make of it. I like to think I bring my own personal color to the table.
There are times where the ambiguity can lead to stress or anxiety and I have to step back and tell myself to embrace the unknown and be me, giving 100%.
In those times, I can do one of two things that help me. Each person is different and this may not work for everyone. One thing I do is close my eyes, stop what I am doing, take a deep breath and visualize in my head that I am twirling in circles and screaming as loud as I can. After about 10 seconds I can open my eyes and I am smiling and feel better. Another thing I do is stop what I am doing, stand up, bring my hands into my chest, close my eyes, inhale deeply, and with my exhale I fling my arms out and say whoosh. This helps me physically and mentally. Whatever I was focused on I am mentally telling myself to let it go. Sometimes, I need 2-3 whooshes to fully let go and move on.
As you can tell I embrace and love this quote.
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